NEWK-IT! too! (Honesty Ahead) 4-19-09
Subject: NEWK-IT! too! (Honesty Ahead) 4-19-09
Send date: 2009-04-19 11:16:42
Issue #: 7
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1 Greetings IN Christ, 4-19-09

Being pursued by God for relationship mirrors our healthy relationships with one another.  We pursue each other in Christ because we want something for one another, not from one another.  NOTE:  I underline healthy relationship to highlight an important fact. Unhealthy relationships with others don't mirror God's relationship with us. Unhealthy relationships pursue for selfish gain, not for mutual benefit.

Pursuing for relationship is multi-faceted in marriage because of the complexity of life and the challenges of working with another person toward the same goals.  Communication is key to the pursuit; trust is key to the pursuit; love is key to the pursuit.  No games or positioning for power are needed in these relationships or when the relationship goes a bit awry, partners live in loving forgiveness toward one another.  In Christ, we forgive; in Christ we ask for forgiveness.

God created men and women with a sex drive unlike other animals.  In the dog world, for example, when the female goes into heat, the male gets aroused - for the purpose of procreation.  Certainly procreation is part of human sexuality, but a very small part.   No privacy, no intimacy in the non-human world, just procreation. Animals don't make love, animals have sex.

God created humans in his own image, different from all other animals. In a healthy marriage relationship, husbands and wives pursue one another sexually for the relationship - to make love.  Our society has done great damage to marriage when it describes, primarily men, but women too, as "sex starved animals" only out for their own pleasure.  Men and women would do well to check in with their own and their spouses' body, soul, heart, mind and spirit and ask (honestly ask), "is the sexual aspect of my marriage all I desire it to be and all God desires it to be?".  Tension is part of life and is especially true for married life.  Release - regular release is God's plan to be a healthy part of a healthy marriage.  It is good and right and God designed!

God designed the sex drive in humans so that they would desire a deep, intimate relationship with their marriage partner.  This mirrors God's desire for a full and intimate relationship with us in Christ Jesus.  Great hurt takes place when that desire is squashed or ignored or mocked as though it is only a "physical need".  When life gets so busy, or stresses get so great, or hurts get so huge that husbands and wives no longer have the passion to pursue one another for a vibrant intimate life, something needs to give. 

If your life and marriage is troubled by unhealthy relationship, please pray for the courage to reach out to those around you who can help you get healthy.  Pray for wisdom to do and say the right thing so that God can heal your heart and life.  If your life and marriage is healthy, please pray for courage to reach out to those around you who desperately need your care and guidance.  Pray for wisdom to do and say the right thing so others can experience healthy relationships.

May God grant us courage!  May God grant us wisdom!  May the peace that passes understanding guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.  Blessings IN Christ, Cindy

Cindy Steinbeck Newkirk 
Steinbeck Vineyards & Winery
5940 Union Rd. Paso Robles, CA. 93446
805.238.1854 (o) 805.674.1909 (c)

 

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